In the pursuit of a meaningful and fulfilling life, many of us find ourselves searching for our purpose.  While the path to finding one’s purpose can be deeply personal and unique, there are guiding principles that can help navigate this journey. 1. Self Reflection The first step towards finding your purpose is to engage in […]

In times of crisis, be it personal or collective, Eastern teachings offer valuable insights and a serene path towards finding peace amidst chaos. They encourage individuals to harmonize with the flow of nature and embrace the principles of balance, acceptance, and adaptability. 1. Embrace the Nature of Change It is important to recognize that change […]

Emotional abuse is a widespread insidious phenomena, and rarely recognized by the victims unlike physical or verbal abuse.  It is still very powerful form of violence that is systemic and patterned to destroy the inner self of the victim.  It is important to distinguish emotional abuse from isolated insults or cutting remarks in the heat […]

What is a healthy relationship? According to Janet G. Woititz, it is a relationship where I can be me, you can be you, we can be us, I can grow, you can grow and we can grow together. This is very similar to Gestalt marriage bow.  It sounds so simple, and yet it is quite […]

Can we communicate violently?  The answer is yes.  Just the way physical violence is on a continuum, verbal violence is also on a continuum. I get many clients for anger management.  I find that most of these clients use violent communication which are criticizing others, yelling, name-calling, cursing, and judging often or all the time.  […]

There are ways that we communicate with each other that are systemically alienating us from compassion.  1. Moralistic Judgments I value organization and so when I see you spend time on being creative, I judge you to be messy and not disciplined.  On the other hand, if I value creativeness and see you worry about […]

America is called a ‘dopamine nation.’  We pursue dopamine as we feel  good when we get a shot of dopamine. Our brain remembers this feeling good or high and convinces us that we need to continue to get them.  When we artificially force our brain to produce more dopamine to feel good, it is like […]

(1) Narcissistic Personality (2) Borderline Personality (3) Antisocial (Socipath) Personality (4) Paranoid Personality (5) Histrionic Personality About 15 percent of people In America meet the criteria for the above personality types. Not everyone with the above personality type causes high conflicts. It is important to recognize the ones who do as they can cause a […]